A word that is plastered on tv, billboards, social media & in schools. The word is often overused and abused. How do you teach your child to not be a victim, and what to do in case it happens?? Here are my suggestions on how to teach your kids about bullying, and empower them in the process!
Start by telling your kids what it really means. Does it mean getting into an argument with your best friend? How about if a classmate calls you an idiot once?
A good definition is the repetition of an unkind act. Simple, yet gets the point across.
Discuss Various Types of Bullying with Your Child
Bullying can take many forms: physical, emotional, sexual harassment & cyber bullying. Physical bullying is pretty easy to define – it’s basically bullying that hurts someone’s body or possessions. Emotional bullying is a little bit harder to identify because it includes things like social isolation and spreading gossip about someone. This kind of bullying can be done without kids even speaking to each other.
Emotional bullying is a little bit harder to identify because it includes things like social isolation and spreading gossip about someone. This kind of bullying can be done without kids even speaking to each other.
Sexual harassment is making obscene or sexually explicit comments or advances towards someone. Last but certainly not least (and most common today) is kids.
Cyber bullying means using kids to make mean or threatening remarks about someone. Kids tend to use this one the most because it’s the easiest to hide behind.
Teach Them How to Advocate for Themselves and Other
Teach your child that standing by and watching someone get bullied is just as bad as being the bully. Many children (especially older ones) are fearful of the bully retaliating if they are caught being the “snitch” or “tattletale.”
Find out your child’s school policy on bullying. Do the kids fill out an anonymous form? Are they supposed to make reports to the teacher or counselor? Knowing the school’s policy can you help you align your suggestions with the school.
Communicate Regularly With Your Child’s School
kids daily to find out what is going on at school. Have they suddenly become withdrawn and make every excuse as to why they don’t want to attend school? Are they lashing out at their siblings? Talk to your child to find out if something is going on at school.
If it does become an issue, contact the school to find out what’s being done. Sometimes a simple solution (like moving a child’s seat) is an easy fix. At other times, a more drastic measure may need to be taken (changing classes, disciplinary action, etc).
Follow up to make sure a plan is in place so that it doesn’t happen again.