This post is sponsored by Playtex-Baby™. I am a proud #PlaytexMom, excited #ForBetterBeginnings! All opinions are my own.
Motherhood can be downright exhausting. There were days, weeks, and months during my earlier years in motherhood where it would get depressing. I’d go to bed at night feeling like a failure in some (or all) aspects of my life as a wife and mother. Some days I’d be counting down the hours until bedtime, other days it was the seconds. And, most days I felt like I was being pulled in a million directions and yet not able to accomplish even half of what was on my mental to-do list (because I never had a spare moment to physically put that to-do list in writing!).
As I watched my children grow rapidly before my eyes, I finally realized that I needed to make some changes while they were still young. I LOVE motherhood and yet I wasn’t enjoying it to it’s full potential. So today, I wanted to share with you a few of the ways that have helped me to be a happier mother.
Make a Schedule
This is probably the #1 thing I’ve done that has improved the way I feel at the end of the day. Why? Because before I felt like I was focusing on so many different things, that at the end of the day, I’d look back and feel like I didn’t accomplish much, if anything. Having a schedule not only keeps me on track, it’s also a reminder of all of the things I truly DID accomplish! It also helps me to make sure I’m getting the most important things accomplished each day, before moving onto other less-important projects.
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Sometimes in life, I’ve decided that it’s okay take the easy route. Some nights we use paper plates so we can throw them away when we are done. Some days I even order pizza or we take the kids out to dinner. Trust me, I hate to spend extra money and stick to a budget, but I’m also willing to spend a little bit extra at times to alleviate some stress in my life.
When I only had one child, I was fully committed to cloth diapering. With each new baby that has come along, it’s been harder to continue cloth diapering. Frankly, I just don’t have the energy for any extra loads of laundry each week. At first, I felt guilty about this, but then I realized that the money I was saving by cloth diapering was not worth my sanity. I change my son’s diaper, toss it into the Diaper Genie®, and never think about it again! No mess, no stink!
It can be tough, but from Friday evening until Saturday evening, my husband and I try to unplug from our phones, laptops, and the television, and spend 24 hours of time together as a family. We eat nice meals together, we play board games, we go for walks or take our kids to attractions we’ve been wanting to visit together. There are occasions were one of us needs to answer our phone or send a quick text message, but for the most part, we try to not let ourselves get distracted by our smartphones.
Set Aside a Cleaning Day
Every week, not only does Friday mean family night, it also means cleaning day. Cleaning is never fun, but the kids know that when we’re finished cleaning, we start our fun family night together. Since implementing this, there are fewer complaints when it comes to cleaning and eager, fast helpers. Sure, we do some basic cleaning throughout the week, but Friday is when we do the bigger chores, like cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming all levels of the house, makes sure bedrooms are completely cleaned and organized, and catching up on any remaining laundry. Not only do I feel better because my home stays cleaner overall, but we get to relax together immediately after cleaning it, which really feels refreshing!
Take Time Alone
Ladies, you can’t pour from an empty pitcher. If you want to be the best wife and mom you can be, then you have to take time to take care of yourself too! I was so focused on the needs of my children and my husband, that I had neglected my own needs. When you’re exhausted and stressed, then that trickles down into your family life. Once the kids are in bed, relax on the couch and watch your favorite show or movie, or soak in a nice hot bath with your favorite novel. Buy some of your favorite candy to indulge in too!
Just as it’s important to get time alone, it’s also important to get time with the girlfriends in your life! I have to confess, I’m not always great at this one. It is hard to schedule this with other moms because we moms are so busy! But, I do love it and feel refreshed after I’ve had some time with my girlfriends! Just this week I made time to attend the open house for a local mom’s group and I’m excited to be a part of that this year and make new friends!
In the world of social media, it can be so easy to start comparing your life to the lives of those around you. So, your lasagna didn’t turn out as beautiful as the recipe you pinned on Pinterest or the craft you made with your kids doesn’t look like it belongs in an art exhibit. If you’re happy and your family is happy, that’s really all that matters!
Savor The Little Moments
My kids (and I’m sure your kids) do adorable things every single day. Take Zellene for example, she’s been mispronouncing sippy cups (our PlaytexBaby Sipsters®) as zippy cups for months now. And frankly, it’s such an adorable mix-up that I just haven’t corrected her. Instead, every time she says it, it literally puts a smile on my face.
Then there’s Gideon. Every morning he wakes up and I ask him how he slept. Good he’ll reply, very matter of factly… except for this past Sunday morning when he responded with on pillow and literally made me laugh aloud! It’s the little sweet, adorable moments I have with my kids that remind me day after day why I love being a mom!
Are you feeling overwhelmed by motherhood right now? It’s time to press the restart button. It’s time for a better beginning! Implement some of the suggestions above. Put mom first and the results will be not only a happier mother but a happier family too!