Everyone knows the old saying “The grass is always greener on the other side”, right?
It seems to all start with the dream. Little girls grow up thinking they get to find their prince, get married, and live happily ever after. So it comes as quite a shock to many when life isn’t all rainbows and roses. Being an adult is hard. Being married is hard. Striving to live life in a way that is pleasing to God is hard. In a world that lives for instant pleasure, offers little gratitude, and has access to everything with just the push of a button, it’s no wonder why marriages are falling apart. Did you know that the average marriage lasts less than 9 years?!?
With the wonderful expansive knowledge that the internet can provide us, so comes the dark side too. It’s so easy to see Mrs. Jones posting about her perfect life, beautiful house, dressed to the nines children, and handsome husband with just a quick glance at Facebook. But if you really think about it, they are human too. Nobody’s life is perfect. No marriage is perfect. We are all human and, therefore, no person is perfect. Instead of spending even a minute wishing for what you don’t have, remember all the blessings that God has given you.
Think back to the day you got married. Didn’t you think your (soon-to-be) husband looked magnificent in his tux? And didn’t you feel a little like a princess? I remember how magical my wedding day felt. I was so excited to finally be marrying that man that I’d been hanging out with, spending hours a day talking to, and dreaming about a future with. We thought we had it all figured out. Honestly though, the magic of the wedding day can fade fast. Then come jobs, bills, responsibilities, and life. But keeping your marriage alive and well takes work and here are seven ways to help.
7 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Alive And Well
- Make A Pact From Day One To NEVER Say The “D – Word”. – Seriously. From the get-go (or starting today) have a talk. Agree that the word divorce is never to be uttered as an option. Wedding vows say “till death do us part”. When you say those special vows, make sure you mean them!
- Show Appreciation Every Day – Whether you feel like it or now, make sure you share at least one thing that you appreciate about your spouse every single day.
- Say Thank You – We teach children to use their manners but, somehow, adults seem to get a free ride. Seriously, say thank you! It’s an easy way to communicate gratefulness.
- Pray For Your Spouse – Have you ever tried being mad at someone you’re praying for? It’s pretty hard. Spend your energy praying for your spouse instead of holding a grudge.
- Hold Hands, Kiss Hello & Good Bye, & Show Affection – Keeping that spark alive, especially as the years trickle by, can be hard. By purposefully making physical contact daily, it’s easier to keep that fire going. Wives, check out these Flirty Memes to send to your husbands!
- Pay Attention – When your spouse has something to say, put away distractions and look at them. Set the phone down, step away from the computer, put down the spoon as supper can wait. Give them your full attention and let them know you care about what they have to say.
- Make Time With Your Husband A Priority – Whether you schedule weekly or monthly date nights, set aside that time religiously. Put a date on the calendar so time doesn’t just slip away! Dates don’t have to cost a lot either. Pack a picnic or just go grab a coffee or ice cream and park and talk.
The grass always looks greener on the ‘other’ side…… ’till you get to the ‘other’ side.
Water your grass. Invest in your marriage.
Pull out the weeds from your grass. Breathe life into your marriage.
Fertilize your grass. Watch your marriage grow!
Your grass can be as green as the ‘other’ side. Even ‘greener’ if you just take the time to care of your own grass instead of looking towards or going to someone else’s grass. A little honesty, respect, and kindness goes a LONG way! And honestly, your marriage will begin to thrive by simply stopping the comparisons. The very first step may just be unfriending that Mrs. Jones who thrives off the attention she gets by portraying that allusive perfect life that we all know is a facade. Focus on the blessings that God had given you right before your eyes.