The BEST thing you can do for your kids is to go to work.
I was at an event last week where the statement above was made by a well-known female actress (and fellow mom), followed an exuberant amount of applause by other women/moms……… and I’ve been upset about it ever since. Downright angry in fact.
Look, let me just start this by saying I have NOTHING against moms who decide to work. With as many hours as I put into blogging every week, I’m a working mom myself. I’m a work-from-home working mom, but still a working mom nonetheless. In fact, at times we’ve hired babysitters to come in and help me so I could work. Your decision to work is between you, God, and your husband (if you’re married).
That being said, I’m furious that another mom would find it appropriate to criticize stay-at-home moms. I’m tired of the attack on stay-at-home moms. As if the decision to stay home with your children means you lack ambition. The mommy wars really need to end!
I remember when I was fresh out of high school and adults in my life would respond with harsh negatively when I vocalized that my greatest ambition in life was not to pursue a career but instead to be a mom. They acted like I was ruining my life. What is so wrong with wanting to dedicate your life to your family? I’ve been published in Better Home and Gardens and featured on numerous sites all over the Internet. But, let me tell you, there is nothing I find more empowering than being a mom. There is nothing more rewarding than being a mom! If I had to choose between motherhood and my career as a blogger, hands down I’d choose motherhood. There is no greater joy or reward!
If you’re a stay at home mom, I’d just like to encourage you today and tell you that I see you. Please don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your decision to forgo a career to raise your children. And I think what you are doing is AMAZING! You’ve dedicated your life to raising your children and that’s to be commended!
Whether you’re a working mom, stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in between, please remember that your fellow mom is just doing exactly what you are doing – what’s best for HER family and HER children. Let’s be supportive!