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10 Things I Didn’t Realize Until I Married A Farmer

I grew up in the city. My husband grew up out in the country. There were so many things I didn’t realize about farming until I married a farmer. If you are about to be married to a farmer, get ready for some hard work and adventure! 

10 Things I Didn’t Realize Until I Married A Farmer

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1. You Will Run On Farmer’s Time.

Growing up, my dad always said: “if you aren’t 10 minutes early, you might as well be 5 minutes late”. Well, that is no longer an option since I married a farmer. You see, cows can’t tell time. So we are always late!

2. You Will Be More Than A Farmer’s Wife

My husband is a farmer. However, he also acts as a vet, business owner, CEO, boss man, nutritionist, scientist, experimenter, janitor, and so many more roles. As soon as I married a farmer, I became his right-hand woman working right alongside him in all of these roles.

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3. Married a Farmer = Married to the Farm

Farming is a 24 hour a day, 7 days a week job. It must be done 365 days a year. Hopefully, you have occasional help. If not, be prepared to be married to the farm when you marry a farmer. I have heard of some farmers working 80 to 100 hours a week!

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4. Things you will find in your washer/dryer.

Hay, feed, cow hair, plastic gloves, bottle caps, sand, straw, just to name a few. Not to mention all the cow poop. Be warned. Your washer and dryer will see it all!

5. You join the farming community

Being married to a farmer means belonging to the farming community. Farmers stick together and take care of each other. One of the best parts of being a small-town farmer is the community you build.

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6. Date nights are often held in the barn

When my husband can’t leave the farm for date night, date night comes to the farm. Back in our teens, my now husband and I could both fit in the skid loader at the same time. I would go over there and spend hours wedged in the skid loaded with him feeding the cattle and cleaning out the barns. Now that I married a farmer, our dates continue to be in the barn more than I would like.

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7. Farming stays in the family

If you married a farmer, chances are you will be seeing their family a lot. Learn to see this as a blessing, or it can be a hard transition to handle.

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8. Planning is a joke

Things can change in a moment’s notice. You might have plans and then they change. Since I married a farmer, this has become my life. He can’t help it. He doesn’t want to be stuck at the farm because of “another issue”, but it happens. Try to cut him some slack. It isn’t easy for anyone.

9. It’s all about the Weather

Say goodbye to nice sunny days. If the sun is out, so is my husband. Farmers live by the weather. If it is a nice day, there is something that needs to be done.

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10. You need the proper Boots – Our Favorite Brand is Danner Boots


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Footwear is imperative when it comes to the farm. The first time I went to visit my now husband’s family on the farm, I brought with me “barn sandals” and cute, zebra print boots. Well, my friends, that was a mistake! Farmers need real farm boots. That is where Danner Boots come in. Since I have married a farmer, I have learned a thing or two about work. Danner boots were made for hard workers and they are our favorite brand of boots for working at the farm.

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My husband and I have matching Danner Boots. Remember what I said about date nights in the barn? Well, getting matching work boots was my way of keeping the romance alive. We both love our Danner boots for so many reasons.

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His Thoughts on Danner Boots

My husband is in love! And not just with me, but with his new Mountain 600 Danner Boots. As soon as he put them on, he commented on the foot and ankle support. He is not as familiar with this taller style boot but has really noticed the benefit to the extra ankle support.

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He pointed out a small feature, but an important one. The laces stay tied! This might seem petty, but who wants to take the time to retie their boots when they are busy working outside? Lastly, he likes that they are easy to clean. When working on a farm, he steps in all types of, well, let’s just say “stuff”. So the fact that he can spray these boots off with a hose and keep going is a huge benefit. 

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My Thoughts on Danner Boots

I am not usually a work boot type of gal. However, my husband considers life on the farm a “date night away from home”. So when I go “help” I need the right gear to do the job. The fact that these boots keep my feet warm during the frigid Minnesota winters is a huge plus. Really it’s a must-have! There is nothing worse than cold, wet feet.

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The color and style are perfect. They are made for working hard but still look like a women’s boot, which I appreciate. They are also comfortable! Danner boots are clearly made for a long day on your feet. 

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There are so many things I didn’t realize until I married a farmer. But one thing I learned early on is that you need a great pair of boots for the farm. Check out Danner Boots for boots for him, for her and every adventure you find yourself in while outdoors. 

John Smith

Thursday 20th of February 2020

It sounds like a very complicated life for both of you!

Peggy Nunn

Tuesday 4th of February 2020

I like the part about being part of a farming community.... they do stick together.

Mia E.

Friday 31st of January 2020

This seems like such a busy but fulfilling life style. There must be many long long days for you and your family.

monique s

Tuesday 28th of January 2020

It sounds like hard work and very rewarding in many ways with the family component

Peggy Nunn

Monday 20th of January 2020

I admire you for all you do. I could never be a farmer's wife.