On our recent vacation, I took a book along for the plane ride and was actually able to read the whole thing by the end of our trip! It was so nice having Grandparents and Maggie’s Aunt along on the plane ride to help keep her busy and give me a little break!
I took along the book, “Disrupting Grace,” and I couldn’t put it down! It is a true story written by a lady who adopted a child from Thailand. In this book, a mother tells her own story of adopting a child who has severe attachment problems, due to the foster care she received as an infant. It is a sad and heart wrenching story and yet one that I really think needed to be shared. Very seldom do you hear of adoptions gone wrong, but obviously it does happen. I find it to be very courageous of this mother to be able to share with others that, after trying for 5 years to make this girl a part of their family, they eventually had to relinquish their parental rights, for the sake of everyone involved. I am sure there are families are over who are struggling right now with this very same issue, and reading her book will be like medicine to their souls.
Let me quote from the back cover so you get a good idea what this book is about:
Often we hear stories of adoption and happy endings, but what about the adoptions that don’t work out? What are families to do when despite all efforts, their child isn’t thriving, and the rest of the family is coming apart at the seams? Isolated families are running out of hope, battling paid, experiencing grief and the loss of a dream. Kristen Richburg sadly admits the inability to meet the needs of her adopted daughter and how five years later she reliquished her parental rights of a child she had so hoped to love, nurture, and cherish for life. What now?
Aren’t adoption stories supposed to have happy endings? How did we get here?
Disrupting Grace describes Richburg’s journey through mothering and relinquishing an adopted child, and how through that experience, her shallow and small understanding of grace was enlarged and forever changed. It is in heartbreak, that she learned about love, in loss, that she experienced spiritual gain, and in brokenness, that she was made whole.
My husband and I for many years have concidered adopting one or more children at some point in our lives. I do not feel as though this book is meant to discourage you from adopting. It is mearly written as encouragement to those who themselves are struggling with an adoption that has not gone as smoothly as those involved had envisioned. It has also prepared me for the fact that, should we decide to adopt one day, there are no guarrenttees that life will be perfect. Adoption is a wonderful thing, but should not be taken lightly!
*I was not paid for this review. I only share my honest opinions. Thanks to the company for the complimentary review book.*